Yes this just happened to me!!!!!!!!!! Need motivation!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So I am large, 5'4" and July 31 I weighed 253 pounds.  My weigh in today was 238, so yeah I am happy. Slowly but surely. 

 So I decide to go to my favorite nail shop, talk with the ladies and get a pedi as a treat.  So this older lady (maybe like 80ish or older) was there with her really rude daughter...they were giving the owner a hard time because she was taking a long time *lots of customers* and the daughter asked the owner to have someone take her old mother home. Of course this is crazy-ness.....so the owner said she had too many customers and could not possibly do it.....

(so I am just setting up the scene here)

.....then the old lady is complaining about this and that, in another language, sounded russian. So I was just waiting soaking my feet and reading a book, along with about 4 others who were waiting. The old lady sits near me for her toe paint to dry and she looks at me says, "Excuse me" and I said "yes?" and she said "NO MEAT, NO SUGAR, NO MORE FAT FOR YOU" and she put her arms up near her stomach to indicate a big FAT ROUND STOMACH. I thought maybe I heard wrong, so I said "excuse me?" and she said, "NO MEAT, NO SUGAR, NO MORE FAT".........I just said "thanks".....and her rude daughter just sat and smiled....

So everyone was quiet....and then the old rude lady and her rude daughter leave and then the entire nail shop begins to talk about it......LIKE DUDE.....REALLY?  They were like "why didnt you say anything?"  LIKE WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO DO, TELL HER OFF? SHE IS 80 YEARS OLD OR OLDER.  Then they went on and on and on........talk about HUMILIATION.  Now I wasn't as embarassed because I know the owner, and the ladies in the shop but STILL.

So there I was feeling good that I have maintained, eating right, feeling motivated and then this old hag comes up to squash it.

Motivation please?

=(

OMG!  April---don't think another thing about it.  I know that's hard to do.  But just consider that you have already taken steps in the right direction.  Some people aren't happy unless they are being ugly to others.  They sound like those type of people.  Good for you for not socking that old lady AND her rude daughter!!!

Just keep up the calorie counting website and next time you see them, you can be skinnier and say something like "No more public outings for you since you obviously don't know how to interact with actual people!" 

Looking good is the best revenge and think about this: If you keep going the way you are pretty soon you're going to be thin and looking fantastic; she's still going to be old and unpleasant. Who's the real winner?

Hi fellow San Diego resident!

I think you handled yourself wonderfully.  It would take most of an army to hold us down not to say something.  She was rude and that is hers to live with. 

You are doing really well with your efforts do not let some spiteful old person derail you.  Stay focused on your goals and you will make it!

I am from the South and I believe in southern hospitality.  If you come to the south I am sure some of us still have the ability to be friendly.  I have had older people say extremely rude things to me over the years.  What would she say if you were to tell her that oil of olay would do the trick on the wrinkles?   I would have told her off, she has no right to treat you that way.  What is sad is that she is old enough to know better.  Good luck on your weight loss.  She only sees you today she does not see where you have been. 

David

Well I just want to say its not worth thinking about what she said.... Remember You have lost weight and even though its slow its coming off!!  I live with my grandma while my husbad is in Iraq and lol they say super werid things!!! But it does suck when people dont  pay attention to what they say.. And consider what she said what does she want you to eat carbs.... gosh...   But congrats on losing weight your doing Great!!

Oh, just bask in the glory and glee of not breaking her little-old-80-year-old-neck. She's a crazy person (obviously). You can shed the pounds, but she can't shed her poor attitude...

I agree with the others...try not to let it bother you.  I know it is hard but no matter what, some people will always have something negative to say.  Apparantly, from the story...she and hers bask in the misery of others.  Don't let them bask in anything of yours! 

Congrats on your 15 pound loss!! The treat you gave yourself was a great idea!!!  Don't let them ruin your celebration...instead, start planning the next reward for when you've reached your next weight goal!!!  YOU CAN DO IT!!! 

ugh! some people!!

Original Post by aminjarez:

So I am large, 5'4" and July 31 I weighed 253 pounds.  My weigh in today was 238, so yeah I am happy. Slowly but surely. 

Wow I cannot believe she actually said that. Good thing you are home on this website instead of in jail, where I would probably be.

On another note though, it looks like you have lost 15 pounds in less than a month. Not to rain on your parade, but I just want to make sure you are getting enough nutrition and eating enough calories, as this is an excessively high amount of weight loss!

Some times you have to just stare at people and wonder how they ever got through life without learning basic manners.  Clearly you can see where the daughter got it from.  Good job for being the better person here!  I was a cashier at a liquor store once and I had lots of customers that I refused to serve say some pretty ridiculously mean and rude things to me (I once had an underage kid yell at me, then get his dad, who yelled at me...).  It sucks, but we're both grown-ups with self respect, let them make fools of themselves.

Congrats on the loss so far!

I read this and the first thing I thought of was how absolutely MISERABLE those two must be?  To walk about this planet acting like that when we are all trying to get by together!  You, on the other hand, were put to a "tolerance" test and passed with flying colors!  Good for you!!!  I think we are here learning lessons and passing (or not) tests.  Love you!  you rock.

The fact that her daughter is also rude suggests that she might have always been rude herself, but you have to cut old people some slack.  My mother (now 84) says things she never would have said when she was younger.  Things she would have smacked me for saying.  Cognitive function declines and inhibitions seem to go with it.  As for the others in she shop, I am sure they were embarrassed by her behavior and wanted to assure you that they didn't agree with it.  Don't let this stop you.  If you keep losing, the day will come that it won't even occur to anyone to say something like that because you will look so good.

I would bet that the elderly lady didn't think she was being rude, but helpful! I think there might have been a culture gap as well-- in some cultures when a woman gets to be of a certain age, she is able to say whatever the hell she wants and the folks around her either hail her wisdom or just bow to the inevitable. Not that I think this right for anyone, despite their age or the time they've survived this world. Also, I don't know that every culture sees weight the way we do-- that is, that it is taboo to comment on a stranger's physical appearance. It is, if you will, a prime example of the "political correctness" on our part; which I'll also say is not a bad thing on our part.

Congratulations on your weight loss so far. That's really awesome. Keep it up! You're an inspiration.

I am so sorry that happened to you! I had almost the same thing happen to me. I was scheduling the old man for surgery he was about 82 and I told him that his surgery was going to be later in the day and he could not eat or drink after midnight. He said "that's ok I am used to it" Then I say it would be hard for me to do it and he said "you could stand to skip a few meals"! I was shocked that he said that but I didn't say anything he was really old. But me and my coworkers got a big laugh out of it.

I cannot explain why some people never learn, especially by the age of 80+, how to treat another person.  You will just have to chalk it up to her being a miserable human being.  I always tell myself when someone else gets to me like that, no one can 1. dictate my behavior or 2. take away anything good from me.  She stinks!  You are awesome for not saying anything rude to her.  You were probably trying not to die from shock from the grumpy old lady!!  Poor thing.  You are doing great!  Good job on the weight loss so far!!!!

Jill

That old guy in the above story stinks too!!  Just another story of stinky people... after I had my son I was at Wal-Mart getting my car oil changed.   This old guy was in the waiting room with me and said something really rude about how chubby my 6 month old baby was.  Even tiny babies are not off limits ??!!!  I went home and told my husband and I swear I had to talk him about of going down there to beat the old geezer up!!  Not really of course but we were both steamed.  Some people stink... what goes around comes around though so maybe they will fall down somewhere in public today- haha!!  Okay .. I am slap happy for now :D

Thanks everyone!  You are all right, I should just let it go, this type of stuff happens to many of us, and I suppose it is all the way we respond to it. I shall let it go....thank you!

DawnieCampbell:  Do you think its excessive? Maybe a bunch of water?  I am on Jenny Craig 1200 calorie diet and following that pretty strict....I go in tomorrow though for a weigh in and will talk with them about it.  Thanks!

That sucks about that lady. It sounds like you handled it well! Regarding 1200 cals on JC. I have been on JC several times and at your weight you should be on the 1500 cal plan. They shouldn't put you on 1200 until you hit halfway. Otherwise, there is nowhere to go when you hit a plateau. Besides, 1200 is just not enough for most women. Definitely ask your consultant about this. They really should not have started you at 1200. Good luck with JC. It works if you stick to it. I could never stick to it for long because I missed real food too much.

Hi

It sounds like that eldrly lady was a righ ole' hag.  Although I'm not a devoted christian, I think this prayer applies wonderfully here:

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

You handled your self wonderfully.  There is no way you could have changed that old hag's outlook on life by giving her the rant. You knew the difference!

B