How to take "you're getting huge comments"

Seriously, pregnant or not, no woman wants to hear people tell her how big she is getting.  Ok, at least I do not.  You could not tell I was pregnant until I was 7 months and after that I started growing.  Now I am due in 3.5 weeks and my belly seems to grow by the day, which is uncomfortable and painful.  I still teach cycle classes, work out daily and have only put on about 22 lbs in my belly. 

I live in Texas and currently we are in the humid, over 100 degrees daily (have been for over a month now) so I now sweat like a pig all day and I guess my hormones are in over drive.  But seriously I am about to lose it with people making comments on how huge I am going to get. 

Any suggestions?  I am scared I may go off at someone at work, I am hoping to avoid it if I can.  And if you have no suggestions but feel my pain and want to rant with me please go ahead, I just like to know I am not alone.

I totally understand where you are coming from.  I am 40+ weeks right now and I started showing early (around 25 weeks) and had my exponential growth in the months that followed.  By 34 weeks I had somewhat maxed out and I haven't gotten significantly bigger but I got plenty of comments from strangers, coworkers, etc.  Things like, "any day now, right?" and "you look like you're going to pop" when I still had 6 weeks left.  You are all belly like me so I think people feel more comfortable making comments about how big your belly is since you haven't gained weight anywhere else. I think it also makes your belly look bigger when it is attached to skinny arms and legs.  You look great and it is great you are keeping up with the exercise.  Even though you have 3.5 weeks to go it doesn't mean that you are going to blow up during this time.  My weight gain slowed way down in the past couple of weeks.  Hang in there.  People mean well and don't always realize how stupid their comments are.  They usually make them to share in your pregnancy.  Just smile and nod.

Ok I looked at your photo and to me it appears all 22 pounds are right smack dab in the belly.  Your face, arms and legs are still slender and beautiful.  So the belly just appears exaggerated in size compared to the rest of you.  And I'll bet on my life you will be like me...once baby pops out half the weight will be gone.

I hate this part of being pregnant. I know I'm huge, I don't need to hear it from others. The worst comment I've gotten was from my mother in law, she mentioned how swollen my feet/ankles were. I was not swollen, I'm just fat.
You look amazing though! I wish I could be a pretty pregnant lady, maybe with #3 lol

You aren't alone - very few people actually like this comment, yet they make it themselves sometimes.  Everyone wants something to say to acknowledge the presence of the baby - they just don't know how to do it.

If you want to be hard to get along with, you could reply, "Well, grumpy anyway!"

Mostly, I just gave a half smile, then went on.  It was pretty painful for me, seeing as how I was already 60 pounds overweight and would still get those comments, but I knew people meant it well.

Remember that they are not really talking about how much YOU are growing, they are talking about how much the BABY is growing.  And that is a wonderful thing.  They are joining you in their anticipation of a beautiful, healthy baby.

Okay seriously, I wish I looked that good NOW.  I have four kids and I am not pregnant.  You are so pretty and even more so with that baby.  Secretly (between me and you) I envy people that look that good pregnant.  I think I should tell them but then I might sound like a weirdo if I walked up to a total stranger and told them they looked great, but on the other hand who doesn't want to hear unsolicited "You make a gorgeous new mommy!" every once in a while.  So I will tell you and it will be out of my system (totally sounding like a weirdo)...

If I didn't think you looked pretty, I wouldn't reply to this.  I would move on to the next and say nothing more - or at the very least offer some encouraging words, like you can do it, don't worry about your weight now... yada yada...

I can only surmise that people mean your baby is getting huge.  Thus they are saying you because the baby is not as apparent (outside) of your body and they can talk to you... I don't even think you're going to have problems losing the baby weight, if you really have any.

One more thing, I find quite amusing.  When I have lost weigt in the past, people tell me how good I look and they comment on it.  I slowly (four kids later) have just come to accept that people have NEVER said to me, "Geez you put on a lot of weight." They just simply say nothing.  I find this more so to be funny now because weight is really all relative.  So your big factor, looks like it's all caused from a baby in the belly (and only your belly).

Now drink some water and relax and enjoy.  That little one will be here before you know it! 

Punch 'em in the face!

All I have to say is that I hope I look like you when I get pregnant (in another year or year and a half)!!!! You look FANTASTIC!

Thank you all so much!  Seriously I think I just needed to change my perspective on the statements.  Now it does not bother me at all, I was just taking it the wrong way.....hormones I am assuming.

Thank you all again, this made me feel tons better.

Not sure I'd recommend this one but had a friend once that kept bringing it up Every Single Time she saw me and I more or less lost it on her.  We worked in the same unit, different areas but I saw her a few times a day so it got old fast.  One day she went there again literally in front of 45 people hanging out on lunch.  I turned around and kinda lost it on her.  Took a breath and muttered back at her "Yes, we ALL Know how Huge (insert hand gesture and draw out Huge) I am... but know what? There's a Baby in there... What's your excuse."  Go figure she Never said it again.

The "Any day now" comments I'd retort with.  "Quick, tell me the lottery numbers this week"  when they'd look at me baffled or say they didn't know I'd answer back "Yeah I don't either, baby will come when it wants"

You look amazing though!  I think they're all jealous =)

I was telling a friend yesterday that my fingers get really swollen in the heat now and her response was,"yeah, and I can see you have some cankles too"!!!   I don't think I have cankles, my ankles haven't even been swollen and look pretty slender to me. I don't think she meant it to be mean and I think it's a little funny what people think they can say but that was way worse than the you're getting big comments I have received.

Just tell everyone, have a meeting and stand in the middle of the office and say "thanks for caring everyone but I am hormonal and would really love it if no comments about my weight or size anytime in the next 50 years, love you all, thanks"!  They will laugh but also take you seriously!  Problem solved lol

I had this problem daily when I was pregnant last year..

I was HUGE.. so huge that people would ask me if I was having twins (that made me even more angry ;)

I did notice, however, that most of those 'you're belly is so big' comments were coming from women.. women who have had babies and know what its like to be huge and pregnant..

I just started saying 'You know better than to say that to a pregnant woman!'  and that usually did the trick... they would usually apologize afterwards and I never heard the comments from them again!  Try it!

By far the worst thing that was ever said to me came from a friends Mom..

she actually greeted me with 'Hi, Fat Ass!'  ..she was obviously joking with me.. but I mean, come on, really?!

Oh, I LOVE that response, nicolemurphy.  Almost makes me wish I were pregnant again just so I could use it!  Almost, I said...

Original Post by puh8suwrux:

Oh, I LOVE that response, nicolemurphy.  Almost makes me wish I were pregnant again just so I could use it!  Almost, I said...

hah yeah, lol.. almost is the key word! :)

I am pretty big with my third baby, and I still have 19 weeks to go!!  I'm not a tiny gal to start with, so I expect to get pretty round and I"m all baby.  My standard comment when I get the "you're really getting out there" is: "I'm pregnant, I've heard it happens"!!  And mine for "are you sure you're not having twins" is:  "Nope, only one, already had an ultrasound and seen it".  My favorite is the "are you sure your due date is correct?", my response to that one is, " pretty sure that I can still add!".

They drive me nuts at work too!!  I try very hard to remember that they all aren't trying to be mean, but they still make me nuts!!!  You would think they would know better!! 

I would rather just get the you're getting huge pregnancy comments!

I work in a big company full of men and unless I specifically tell them ( I meet new people at the office every single day ) they have no idea I am 24weeks pregnant they just think I am getting fat!