"You're to skinny, what do you eat in a day" *rant*

So Im outside doing laundry yesturday and my father-in-law is out there, we have a converstaion, it goes liek this:

How much weight have you lost so far?

~ Just over 30lbs

That's too much

~ Actually, I weigh 135lbs which is in healthy range for someone my sex, height and age.. Your daughter who is the same height as me is 105 and im 30lbs more so no, it's not to much.. Im at a healthy weight..

You look too skinny, what do you eat in a day

~ :@

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I told him what I eat in a day, but I get mad.. Im sick of having to defend myself with this.  Why can't people believe that Im doing this the safe/right way?!?!?!?!  No, I don't have an eating disorder, no Im not on the atkins or some stupid crash diet, yes I eat food and alot of it..  FRUSTRATING.. I feel like I shouldn't HAVE to explain myself but I do explian because I don't want to get mad then it gives them more of a reason to think i have an ED because I get "defensive".. ARGH!!!!

I'm not really going anywhere with this post, lol,  but it's frustrating...

I was just thinking about it.. Next time maybe Ill lift up my shirt and show him my spare tire of flab or the extra fat that is sticking to my inner thigh or my underarm flab.. Maybe they ppl would want to see that?!?!?! 

I would respond with really personal questions - "How often do you and your wife have sex?"  "Just how big are those pants."  "Have you always been this rude?"

Congratulations, by the way - your pictures look fantastic!

Oh, platinum...I hear ya!

First of all, congrats on the weight loss. Second of all, you look GREAT! Not too skinny, just right. Totally fit. :-)

I started my weight loss journey about a year ago or so, and I was morbidly obese (223lbs, 5'6") - now I am sorta where YOU started, at 166ish or so! I still definitely have a bit to lose (looking for about another 20lbs or so) and I get "skinny" comments all of the time.

I think people just need time to adjust to the "new you", that's all.

~Colleen

You could just tell him what your caloric intake is, and then say something like "but being a man and taller, you could eat 500 calories more than me and lose weight, too!" With a sweet helpful smile.

Maybe he is "curious" because he is thinking of losing weight too - but he won't admit it.

girlfriend, i CANNOT WAIT to defend the fact that i lost weight! if i where you, take peoples comments and turn it into thinking "wow so my goals are being met and people are noticing" you dont have to explain yourself to ANYONE. especially since you are losing weight for YOURSELF. if you have the willpower to lose the weight, trust me, you can do anything.

congrats again on the weight loss, you are looking fab!

haha... well people also wonder why I am not as fat as I was used to be.  My mother said a few days ago, that I should stop losing weight(after I told her that I lost aprox. 30lbs), cause it's unhealthy, lol! I am still in an overweight BMI, need to lose another 15 lbs to get in a healthy range. Then I asked her: "What should I change? After all I am eating plenty or not?" she shaked the head and agreed that I am eating enough anyway.

It's just that people don't understand why I'm losing weight while still eating normally and not being on some rad diet. My lost weight won't jump back on me, never, and to know that, is a great feeling. I just eat the darkest kind of bread for lunch and try to avoid cheese, sweets, milk products and so on, and it works out pretty fine :)

LOL, Kellywood, if it wasn't my in-laws I might ask something like that, I have to live with them!! Next time I am going to get a little bit snarky!! 
The thing that gets me is that my boyfriend KNOWS how I do this and he said it comes up in conversation sometimes (not me specifically but his mom went through radiation and gained weight) and he tells them how I did it so I don't know why he still asks or why he thinks I am too skinny..
I am 5'2 - 135lbs - 29 years of age, def not to skinny

Thanks for the compliment also, I just uploaded my before pic.. When I look at the pic Im like wow, I actually looked like that but I that is NOT what I saw when I looked in the mirror,  HOW did I NOT see it??

I look fat...I would rather look skinny.

Wow this is exactly how I feel. My mom's side of the family always are saying that I'm never eating and stuff just because I dislike all of the food they eat and I almost know for a fact that they think I have an ED and it gets frustrating. I am now mantaining my weight of 132~ and I eat 2,000 cals and upward depending on what I do in a day. So finally my mom's mom said something like "you never eat" so I replied "well I guess the 12 chicken wings I had earlier doesn't count" as I had just ate some of the KFC Boneless Wings. (Yes I know they aren't the healthiest thing in the world but they taste so darn good. And one of my dads coworkers said "Now you have lost enough and don't think you'll add it back just start eating more. And if you work out it adds weight" I was thinking "Really. No Duh. I have researched this crap before". It makes you really think what some people think is eating healthy.

Regards and I just get really frustrated that they can't just say congratulation. And This Ends My Rant.

cchristinyc, thanks for the compliment.. You might be right also, with the adjusting to the new me.. For the past 7 years  (that is over half the time I've been around this family) I've been overweight so now maybe it just weird to see someone look quite different..

Another thing too, i dont know if Im being ultra sensetive since it's happened alot over the past year, I don't know if the people are being sincere then turning around and talking about how I must be doing something unhealthy.. I think about it way to much apparently..hahah

Trustwoman, he is actually very physically fit for his age so that theory doesnt come to mind when he asks (when others ask I think it could be why, not sure) Plus his english is awful, I won't even go there trying to explain consumed/burned calories, it would take days..lol 

krenren77, it's fun running into people I havent see for awhile as long as they don't ask (mostly males, they don't care how you did it, they just want a lil piece) but after the 10th + person who give you "the look" and ask when you know what they are thinking you will probably start to get mad too.. argh!..lol

Thanks for the compliments also and good luck to you

Vendetta, that is the thing, Im 135 that is NOT skinny, a size 7 is not too skinny!!! When Im a size 3 and someone says I look too skinny then maaaaaybe but a size 7??  Nope!

xxmyxshellxx where is your pic?  Let us be the judge..lol.. I cant see you looking fat with your stats, I bet you look perfect..

13 y/o  5'4" and 117 sounds great

Baywolf, that is something funny too.. I was at my friends the other day and her in-laws were there.. Of course when I left her mom in law came outside and asked "what has she been doing and she said excersizing and eating properly" and she was like what, she was drinking an icedcoffee?!?!?!!  Like, yes, I had to give something up for that iced coffee and/or add another  30 minutes of cardio to my work out for that iced coffee.. Or had to have a maintence day...  It's pretty hard trying to explain if someone doesn't know..

And I appreciate you getting in on my rant *Wh00t*

I've lost 25 lbs since the beginning of this year and this has happened to me. At first it made me feel very umcomfortable that people weren't happy for me but concerned when I was actually in the best shape of my life.  But it wasn't good concern, like if I passed on dessert, immediately I would get attacked, "does your strict diet never allow you to be happy and have some cake???" I started to suspect that some people try to..... sabotage my progress by pressuring me to eat food that wasn't good for me. But I've felt so embarassed that I've even ordered big desserts that I don't really want just to prove to them that I don't have an eatting disorder. But now I've decided that I can't let their pressure and criticism make me feel bad about the progress I've made. Sometimes when people ask me, "how did you lose so much weight? You've lost too much, you must be starving yourself. What do you eat??" I just tell them, "well, I just have a cracker a day and two on my cheat days." and smile enthusiastically. But congrats on your progress so far. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. I think people just don't like being left behind when you improve youself.

I get that from people too ! And suprise suprise the people who were the most "concerned" are now on a diets that are really restrictive!   

I'm actually just beginning to get those comments... "Jeez.. a strong breeze is going to just blow you away."  or "Okay, you can stop (dieting) now!"  "Your thin enough!"  I'm 5'5" and 151 pounds!  That would have to be one helluva breeze!!!  I think people really are just used to seeing me chubby.  I've been a size 14-16 for the last 13 years at least.  I'm a 10 now (hoping for an 8 soon, and then I PROMISE I'll stop ;)).  So it may take some time for people to get used to the new you!

You look fantastic by the way!  You are oozing confidence as well, and confidence is beautiful!

Well, I get a call from an old friend yesturday..



So you still losing tons of weight?!?

~Not tons, Im getting close to my goal weight so it's slowed down..

Yeah, you look really tiny

~Im not though, Im a size 7 and 135lbs, that is not tiny, Im a healthy weight for my sex, height, age..

Well maybe you should go see a doctor then because you look to skinny, sometimes those website things can be wrong

(I used a machine at the gym to calculate my BMI and ect)

~I'm going tommorow, Ill be sure to ask him (*NOT*)



ARGH!!!!!!