But you're so skinny...

Does anyone else have this problem???

When people see me with my snack bag or concerned about the calories in the food I'm about to eat - they say... "But you're so skinny - you don't need to worry about that!" 

I'm so sick of hearing that.  Anyone else?

You're posting this in a weight loss forum. My guess is that it's not going to spark much conversation...

I hear ya.  I hate that when you opt out of eating chicken wings or BBQ smothered in fat that there's something wrong with you.  Why is becoming aware of what you're consuming and trying to optimize your daily intake with vegetables and lean proteins taboo?  Sure I'm not over weight and only trying to lose 5 - 10 pounds, but why is being conscious of what I eat and improving my diet a cause for remarks like "Stop it!  You're not fat." 

Happens to me all the time.  I got some real fatty friends and they are constantly trying to give me little debbie cakes and big macs.  They tell me I am too skinny and it is ridiculous.

I get the same thing a lot too!  People just don't realize that checking calories and reading labels is how I got "skinny" in the first place and the only way I'm going to stay fit.

not yet, but I can't wait until it happens for the first time!  I am sure i will get sick of it too, but I SO can't wait until I get there! 

I get it, and I still got it when I was 175lbs at 5'6". I have some overweight friends that don't understand how or why they got to be overweight and seem to resent me for my ability to get my weight under control. To them, if I'm not jiggling all over, I must be skinny. Even now I'm still 19lbs overweight and they complain that I watch what I eat too much and fail to notice the fact that I've lost 25lbs. :[

People generally have little perspective outside their own circumstances, so anyone thinner than they must be losing weight unnecessarily. It's a defense mechanism and nothing more.

It hasn't happened to me except when I weighed about 160, and my boyfriend (now husband) at the time told me that I didn't need to get down to my original goal weight of 135--that I was skinny enough as I was. Considering that I'm 5'2'', have been since I was 13/14 years old, 160 was still plenty overweight. Of course, 160 is a hell of a lot better than my current weight of 219 (down from 235). To be honest, I wasn't aware I had gone from 160 to 245 in 3-4 years, and when I first attempted to lose weight, I lost 30lbs unhealthily fast (in 3 months) for me, while eating very little (probably around 900 calories a day), and exercising far too hard (at least an hour of DDR a day, every day). I noticed I was starting to gain it back after my wedding last year, but didn't decide to do anything until after Evan left for Iraq.

However, I witnessed one of those, "That's not for you, is it?" moments when my coworker D bought some diet pills, and brought it over to our manager to get initials on the receipt, so D could walk out the door. Our manager looked her up and down and said, "Those aren't for you, right? You don't have anything to lose!" D lied to her and said they were for someone else, but D and I just looked at each other like o.O, because D does need to lose some weight (I'd estimate something like 20lbs--not a lot, but you could tell she's not quite at a healthy weight). We figured K's (our manager) reaction was due to the fact that she is very, very large. I think it was a way to protect herself--if D does in fact need to lose some weight, then K most certainly has to lose a lot of weight.

I have the feeling if a lot of people at work knew I was currently losing weight, I'd get much of the same reactions. I already get eye-rolls whenever I say I'm the fat chick or something along those lines. But hey, I'm not going to deny the fact that I'm fat. I'm comfortable with what I look like now, but there's always room for improvement. Though I'm a little sad that no one's noticed my weight loss, yet. Oh well.

I only talk about my weight loss with family and a few close friends. People with weight on don't want to hear somebody who's 20-60pds lighter than them talk about watching what they eat probably because it feels a bit condemning, you know?

On this site I've had people that have said "you're x height and x weight, you are already slim enough aren't you?". I'm sure it's said in a way meant to be helpful, but it doesn't help.

It doesn't get me mad or upset or anything, but I look down at my belly roll and say to myself "they just don't know"...

I get it, and I feel you.

It's frustrating that people think just because you are thin, you don't have insecurities.

I lost the 20 lbs I gained in college and went back down from a size six to a two, and I got so many positive compliments on my new figure...so much I now kind of obsess over my fitness and weight.

It's a double-edged sword. "You look so fantastic! But why are you watching what you eat--you don't need to worry."

Well, yeah, apparently I do if I want to keep up this "fantastic" body.

omg I completely agree! Especially with hawkeyegal. People say when you've lost weight "my god you look great!"

but then when you carry on what your doing t have gotten to that point they suddenly say "omg what are you doing are you becoming like an anorexic calorie counter?!"

I say its jealousy because they cant be bothered to lose the weight and they suddenly feel insecure about themselves so make it bad that your losing weight like you have a problem.

hahaha I get this ALL this time especially from my boss (i work at a new company). Anyway I've lost 174 pounds, and am now a size 2.. yes, but I just want to smack someone when they're like "well why arent you eating the cake, you're so skinny you dont have to worry about that". UGH. That's exactly why I have to worry about that because I know how easy cake turns right into fat.

Thanks for letting me vent a little :)

haha I get that from my dad all the time.

he says "dont lose those curves"

haha I always get annoyed. but he means well. lol

I agree with others here.  My mom was on weight watchers many years ago and got to her goal and kept it off for a year, so she is a lifetime member.  She has gone back to it a few times to take off a few pounds she gained here or there. 

I remember she used to hear these type of comments from one group of friends in particular.  They used to tell her she didn't need to worry, ask why would she skip dessert, why was she always getting the "healthy" thing, and she told me it took everything in her one night not to yell "the reason I am a healthy weight is because I watch what I eat every day!"  Her friends were not particularly weight-healthy, but they seemed to be very calorie-conscious regarding her diet.  Funny, that...

I actually had this same issue come up today at work.  I was in the lunch room microwaving my lunch and a lady walked in....telling me I need to stop, I"m too thin.  I hate it when people act like you have an eating disorder. 

 

I'm 5'2" and I have lost 20 pounds.  I have 10 more to go to get to my goal of 130.  I don't think I'm too thin.  5'2" and 130 is just right. 

 

Then another person said I looked too skinny. WTF?

 

 

Yes, I get that. I think heavy people have an issue with people that are normal weight and vise versa. There are skinny people who make mean connents to heavy people.

But what they don't understand is that it is a constant struggle everyday to maintain a healthy weight. I don't look at overweight people and say " you are so fat are you really going to eat that?" I mind my own business and only care about my own weight. (To each his own).

I work my butt off in the gym and watch everything I eat. It is no fun but I like myself better when I am fit and healthy so those are the choices I make. I am very small. Only 4'11" and weigh 95lb. but I was at 130lb and very uncomfortable at that weight. That is what keeps me going.

no, i only got "you are buff enough!"...

When I was thin "years ago" I used to get the comment "why are you on a diet your so thin" and my response was "and I'd like to stay that way".  I look forward to being able to say that again.

This has started happening to me lately, my mom continuously tells me I am too thin, and I don't think I am.  I am a size 8 now, woohoo! 

i get people telling me i don't need to exercise.  i don't do anything terribly vigorious...like maybe walk or stationary bike at low resistance for an hour.

regardless if i'm thin, i still need to move around to keep my muscles from athropy....i work at home at a desk all day so i really DO need stuctured exercise.   it's not just for losing weight.  just like eating healthy food should be about nourishing your body and NOT just for people who need to lose weight.

i wish on those getting healthy shows, they would show a slender person who needs diet and exercise improvement...and not just extreme anorexics...