"You're Getting Too Skinny!!!!" Sarcastic Comments

I started my weight loss journey in May 2006 and have since lost 55 lbs. Now when I was 210lbs, my co-workers seemed to have no problem with my weight. If I ever stated that I wanted to lose weight, they'd say things like "Na, you're ok" or "You're fine just the way you are."

Well, after I started my journey and lost the weight, the reactions I'm constantly getting are very sarcastic. I don't think they are complimenting me or even encouraging me. All I seem to hear is ....."Oh, my you are getting too skinny" or "you better stop losing all that weight" or "You better eat something." (BTW I'm 5'6" so I'm not at an unhealthy BMI or even close it, just normal for the first time in my life!!!!!)

Seriously, I lost weight the weight in a healthy and reasonable manner (1 1/2 yrs). It seriously upsets me that these idiotic comments keep coming. Yet when I was considered clinically obese, they were quite content with size.

If you guys have experienced similar dumb people, tell me your experiences. I'm ignoring them, yet its an uncomfortable feeling that people are watching my every move as if its a sin to want to improve myself and get healthier.

It's all jealousy. Keep it up! Give them a slap in the face when you look hot and their still saying things like "You're too skinny" but thinking "Damn, I wish I could be them".

Congrats on the 55 lb loss, by the way!

my mom tells me the same thing.

Yeah, it seems all to common to tear down someone when they're doing amazing. And you are! I'm probably half as nice as you, or less, but I'd blast them with some comment about their weight. "You're getting too skinny" "Well you're getting too...well, let's just say that extra dough nut this morning wasn't a wise decision"

Keep up the amazing work!

That is hilarious "that extra doughnut wasn't a wise decision"

I miss those days *sigh*.

I also am 5'6" and too many years ago I got down to 145 lbs. which is reasonable (profile photo) yet guys often told me the same thing, how you could see my collarbone and how I'd lost the fullness in my face.  Im a pear, Im was going to be skinniest on top.  Its weird to get a backlash when youve worked hard at something.  Did I need to explain that if I did gain weight that plenty would have to show up on my butt before any started appearing up top. 

The higher road to take is to thank them for their concern but remind them you eat healthy and are at a healthy weight.   Then all the frustrated things your thinking you can say ... in your head like "Haters!" :D  Then they'll probably say something like, "But your so skinny" and then you can say, "Actually I just seem skinny because you..." no, dont say that - just say, "Im fine but thanks."

If you want to put in a snide comment just tell them to watch the green eyed monster. ;)

 They probably know you look great, and you know you're doing great. Congatulations!

TOTAL jealousy ;D I used to get a ton of those comments too. now, oddly enough, that I'm underweight, a lot of boys have teased me by asking me if I've gained weight.. don't know where THAT's coming from. It could be very triggering! I mean, I'm not easily affected by comments like that, but stilll...

I think it's the competitive nature of women. Even the closest friends will attempt to sabotage your new way of life, because they aren't disciplined enough to do it, themselves. Also, I always figured that as an overweight woman, I was no threat to them. Once I started to look better, and feel more confidant, it was like they felt the need to "knock me down a peg". If I was doing this out of vanity, it would have worked, same as before. But now that I am doing this for my health, and for my kids, their stupid comments mean nothing to me. Stay strong in your goals. You are doing great!

its jealousy. We alkl want to be the slim pretty girl and its frustrating that someone else can succeed where we fail. theyd rather see you fail than be see you become slimmer than them.

Revolution - just read your profile. Sad to see you struggle so much with your weight but you seem very lucky to have great friends and support. Good luck, im sure its going to be a long hard trek but the freedom youll have 150lbs from now will be worth it. Wish you so much luck :-)

"they'd rather see you fail than see you become slimmer than them." Chelseagirl-you are absolutely right.
It's as if I don't deserve to be slim, only they do! However, when I was overweight, they were more than happy to see me stay at my weight.
sigh

Hey calbbert - im always right :-)

That are usual reactions you see. They can't live being fatter than you, their problems I say.

That are usual reactions you see. They can't live being fatter than you, their problems I say.

First off, congratulations on the weight loss :) thats awesome!

... And i'm sorry to hear you have co-workers like that!
Sounds like the kind of thing my brother in law would do and his sarcastic comments drive me nuts!

If you just smile and ignore it, maybe they'll get bored of saying such things.

Congratulations!!!! You are my height and when you started out at 210 I started out at 215. Im not even to my goal yet and im hearing the same thing you are all the time. I weigh 175 and im getting told constantly. "oh my goodness" *you are getting way to thin* I guess in there minds im only destined to be chubby for the rest of my life. Most of these ppl didnt really know me when I was thin. I didnt gain the weight until I had my second child. Im certainly by no means skinny and when i reach my goal weight of 155 I certainly will not be thin even then.....

I have been trying to ignore the nasty uncalled for comments from ppl that think im to thin or im losing to much weight. Im 40lbs down and it has taken me nearly 1 yr to lose it so im definatly losing it slowly and exercising the correct way.

I say its all jealousy for the most part they are not happy with the weight they are at themselves so they take it out on you because you are doing something about your weight issues.

Ignore them! That is the best advice from everyone on here!

Congrats on the weight loss!  And I think everyone here is right - it's jealousy and pure envy.  I get the comments that "You're fine" all the time - especially from my  sister.  I'm 5'-0" and 174, so definitely have weight to lose.  She's 5'-4" and at one point was probably up around 175 as well.  And now she's lost the weight and is about 120 and looks fabulous. 

My "favorite" moments are when shopping and she complains cause the size 6 is too big, and then will turn and tell me that I'm fine as I'm trying on the size 14...what???

Either way, keep up the great work! 

Maybe it's already been said, but if you want to take the high road- you could say things like:  "thanks, but when I was at my higher weight ~ 1 1/2 yrs ago- I was at risk for diabetes, heart disease, body & joint pain/problems"  "so you see, I am healthier now, but thanks for your concerns"-- "oh, & if you want, I'll tell you how I became healthier, if you're interested for yourself"...........

Oh-- I am soooo proud of you--- 55 lbs., that's what it's all about.  Congrats.........

I understand where they are coming from and that is only after doing the same thing myself. I am 5'6 and 5 years ago I weighed 172 and lost 42 lbs. quickly. I was told that I was too skinny. I looked at it as a compliment because I could comfortably wear a size 5/6. I gained all that weight back and more. This year I got serious and started losing it again. This time slowly. Instead of fad dieting and cardio only, I started simple cuts in the diet and this time along with cardio I am lifting weights. I am down from 183 to 155lbs. If I look at the scale I feel fat. If I look at my body, I see a well curved female from my legs to my hips. I am not to those 5/6 however I am in a size 8. Does it matter? No, not right now. I feel healthier and look a lot better.

Why am I telling you this? There may be some truth in the sarcasm. You could of lost a lot of lean muscle with the fat and now you are considered skinny fat like I was. If that is the case, then shake up your routine. You can actually loose more weight by lifting weights. A pound of muscle weighs more than fat however it takes a lot more food to fuel that muscle too.

Ladies do not be scared to lift dumbells/free weights. Lifting weights will not make you look less feminine and will not make you bulk up. I get a lot more attention from men now and for a girl I lift some moderately heavy weights. I would love to see more ladies over in the weight areas. If you want to know more about my journet you can go to http://bodyspace.bodybuilding.com/lilolemeaka red/ and find out more. Happy lifting.

calbert-

it all comes down to one word that rules people's lives...

JEALOUSY

You should almost take these as compliments!! Keep up your good work, and don't let their snyde comments keep you from achieving YOUR goals!

Calbert:

I am having the same problem and I have started to feel very furstrated. I am not at a healthy BMI yet and my coworkers keep telling me that I should stop losing weight and that I look too skinny. With a waist line of 30 inches, I don't see myself skinny. Their comments started to get me and I became lazy to go to the gym sometimes.